Life and Focus

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 “In my experience, high-achievers focus a great deal on becoming the persons they want to be at work, and far too little on the persons they wanna be at home.”

 Apart from Work, There's Life

Work is just one dimension in life. We also have our family, our friends, and our health to consider. So, having strategy for career would not be enough for us.

We Are Just Too Impatient

Humans naturally tends to focus on what yields high immediate return. We tend to give more priority to work than to our family, simply because we can see our career flourish in a few months or a few years. But, we have to invest so many years in order to raise a great kid.

Other examples are playing game when we should be studying or working late while we should go back and play with our kids. These distracting activities are not inline with our goal, but it lessens our boredom. And, a lot of us succumb to bordem without realizing that we are wandering off the track.

Stay Focus

It is difficult to stop ourselves from being distracted by interesting activities. But we have to force ourselves to stop doing so. We need to focus on what helps we get closer to our goals. Otherwise, we will never reach the goal we plan.

Dealing with Humans

Humans is unpredictable and uncontrollable. This is frustrating especially, when the humans we are talking about is our kids. We can influence them. But, we can hardly expect to like what we like, behave like what we behave, and so on.
When trying to raise a great kid, we will face disappointment. We might often see ourselves as a failure and would like to give up. But...

“Getting something wrong doesn’t mean you fail. Instead, you just learn what doesn’t work.”

And...

“Intimate, loving, and enduring relationship with our family and our close friends will be among the sources of the deepest joy in our lives. They worth fighting for.”          

Source: How Will You Measure Your Life? by Clayton M. Christensen, James Allworth, and Karen Dillon

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Book or Audiobooks?

Personally, I prefer audiobooks. It's fun, and I can listen when I'm doing something else. It also makes other activities (e.g., jogging) a lot more fun. For more detail about audiobooks, please read [this post].

There is one more reason that may encourage you to go for the audiobook version. You can get it now for FREE. Audible offers you a free trial for 14 days. Even if you get the book and cancel the subscription right away (so that you don't have to pay), you can keep the book. And, don't worry if you lost the audiobook file. Just log into audible.com. You can keep downloading the over and over again.

   About the summary: It takes time to finish up a book. And, when you do, sometimes, you want to review what you learn from the book. If you do not make  notes as you read, you might have to go through the book once again. This can be time-consuming when you are dealing with a book. But you can still flip through the book and locate what you are looking for.

However, when the material is an audiobook, it is extremely hard to locate a specific part of content. Most likely you will have to listen to the entire audiobook once again.

This book summary will help solve the pain of having to go through the book all over again.

I am leaving out the details of the books. Most books have interesting examples and case studies, not included here. Reading the original book would be much more entertaining and enlightening. If you like the summary, you may want to get the original from the source below.