Tuesday, August 27, 2013

To Love or To Be Loved


Who You Love or Who Love You

          This is a classic question in finding a true love. Of course, we all want the one we love to love us. But, that’s not always possible. If you can’t have that, would you choose the one who love you or the one you love? In other words, would you choose the one who gives you happiness or the one you would have give him/her happiness?
          We can spend countless time arguing about this. But here is an interesting point when you choose to give (rather than take) happiness. Happiness is not cheap. You need to find the one who worths sacrificing. The one you are truly willing to devote yourself to. That’s the meaning of choose the one you would give happiness over the one who gives you happiness. 

Giving Happiness Is Not Easy

          Making people happy is not an easy task. We usually assume that the other side would want this and that. Unfortunately, what we assume usually differ from what the other side wants.
“More important, the jobs that you spouse is trying to do are often very different from the jobs that you think she should want to do.”
          You should not just randomly speculate about what to do to please the one you adore. Think in terms of the job he/she needs to get done, and you will have a much clearer picture of what you should do.
“Thinking about your relationships from the perspective of the job to be done is the best way to understand what’s important to the people who mean the most to you. It allows you to develop true empathy.Asking yourself ‘what job does my spouse most need me to do?’ give you ability to think about it in the right unit of analysis.”

Now Do It!

          After you know what you should do, DO IT! Again, it’s not an easy task to devote your time and energy to do it. But, if that person worths your sacrifice, you will be happy in doing so. 
“In sacrificing for something worthwhile, you deeply strengthen your commitment to it.”

Source: How Will You Measure Your Life? by Clayton M. Christensen, James Allworth, and Karen Dillon

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Book or Audiobooks?

Personally, I prefer audiobooks. It's fun, and I can listen when I'm doing something else. It also makes other activities (e.g., jogging) a lot more fun. For more detail about audiobooks, please read [this post].

There is one more reason that may encourage you to go for the audiobook version. You can get it now for FREE. Audible offers you a free trial for 14 days. Even if you get the book and cancel the subscription right away (so that you don't have to pay), you can keep the book. And, don't worry if you lost the audiobook file. Just log into audible.com. You can keep downloading the over and over again.

   About the summary: It takes time to finish up a book. And, when you do, sometimes, you want to review what you learn from the book. If you do not make  notes as you read, you might have to go through the book once again. This can be time-consuming when you are dealing with a book. But you can still flip through the book and locate what you are looking for.

However, when the material is an audiobook, it is extremely hard to locate a specific part of content. Most likely you will have to listen to the entire audiobook once again.

This book summary will help solve the pain of having to go through the book all over again.

I am leaving out the details of the books. Most books have interesting examples and case studies, not included here. Reading the original book would be much more entertaining and enlightening. If you like the summary, you may want to get the original from the source below.

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